I’ve always had a love-hate relationship with social media from the days of Orkut to now Facebook. I always had a mixed feeling on the growth of technology and social media. And what I thought has come true – Yeah think yourself on what Social Media is in Today’s world and find social media and its impact.
That was then we spent time speaking in real with friends and family. Now even a birthday wish, we don’t meet or call them over phone. We just post them in the facebook page “Happy Birthday”, but does that really give an human touch. Absolutely No!
Now, social media has become a staple part of our everyday lives. Not only do I still share photos of my current life with my old college friends, but my grandparents, parents, relatives and friends see them as well. I get lot of friend requests from known and unknown, friends friend and more. If I’m not careful, social media is the first thing I see when I wake up and the last thing I look at before I go to sleep. This I am getting habituated, which I have admit is not the right thing to do.
I have to admit, there are major benefits to social media. In an age where many people live far away from friends and family, social media enables us to stay connected, feel a part of each other’s lives, and communicate easily. I’ve stayed in touch with friends I’ve met traveling around the world, who in past generations I would have lost track of long ago. I can easily find out about current events, read the news, or simply take a moment to laugh at some ridiculous cat video in the middle of a stressful workday.
And yet I hate social media at the same time. I’ve often fallen into its traps, comparing my seemingly mundane life with the highlight reel of others. I’ve felt left out when I see friends are hanging out without me. When they comment on other people’s posts and not mine.
I often ask myself do the benefits of social media outweigh the emotional consequences?
Check out this video about Social Media by Dr. Cal Newport in TEDX
And how is social media changing the reality of our relationships? The friendships of social media are increasingly replacing live interactions, as people can feel a sense of connection without leaving the comforts of their own home and often we are actually “alone in a crowd” using our smartphones in the midst of parties and other social gatherings. In many ways, social media has lead us to be less social all together. In fact, I was driving with my family and stopped in a signal. I saw a longtime friend of mine, who I have met around 7 years back. She was in her scooter and standing next to my car. She saw me and I too did, but we both had the same thought, is that she and is that he. So once I reached home, I pinged her and hey are you here in my location, to my surprise it was she. But unfortunately, we both saw each other but did not realize we knew each other. We had lot of chat online and finally lost when it came to recognition in real. This raised a question, where are we heading too? Tomorrow this will happen to our family members, brother, sister and cousin. So I felt, we got to meet. We were near, but very far via social media. This is how the life spins.
But the reality is, social media isn’t going anywhere anytime soon. I think it’s here to stay— growing and morphing as new apps and platforms are developed and we struggle to keep up. Facebook, whatsapp, imo and so many apps are now there, but we are becoming more technology savvy than that of real.
Despite my frustrations, I’ve never gone on any kind of social media rebellion where I post a status about deleting my account, instructing my friends to pick up the phone and call me if they want to know what’s going on in my life. Instead, I strive to monitor my own actions and emotions in spite of social media, not without it. Honestly, I always thought of deleting my facebook account but never did. The time I go there, I feel, anyways it going to be difficult to meet people in person, we can be more connected online.
I am came to a conclusion, that any friends who are near me, I am going to meet them in person and for a birthday, inspite of posting in their wall, I will give them a call and wish them “Happy Birthday”.
So understand the real impact of social media and its effects on society be it politics, society, personal relationship and more.This will ensure where to draw the line for social media, so you can get happy with technology and not get obsessed with it. Be Ready for the Change.